YOU!
Do you find yourself saying can’t?
Do you think its just too hard?
Take baby steps. Tell yourself you can. Tell yourself everyday, several times a day. I CAN Change your thoughts, change your life.
Month: September 2014
Margaret Hodge Pleads “Naivety” To Turning Her Back on Sexually Abused Children
OUTrageous!
Quality of Life = Quality of Questions
I grew up feeling so very alone, disconnected, angry, lost sad and very desperate! Was this my life I wondered? Was this some joke forced on me by the universe? Was I a science experiment to see how much a human can tolerate?
I wanted………………………………. something. I was empty inside. What was it I was missing? I didn’t even know.
The chaos at home would drowned out my own thoughts which were replaced by those of my parents. Their screaming “I hate you!” and “You are bad” and my favorite, “Wait till you grow up, then you will see how it really is.”
I did grow up and you know what? I do see how it really is.
While I asked those questions about my life, like, “Why me?” I felt pain. I felt my heart breaking. I held on to the loneliness, the depression, the anger and I hated my life! I did this for many years and I struggled for perspective and meaning from a past that had none!
Then there were a few years of, Who am I really? and What is my purpose here? My life began to turn around in big ways. One day I found myself asking, what am I grateful for? Who and what do I love? Is there a way to serve and make meaning so that my life matters? I have friends who have marveled at the peace I have today.
What I want you to know is this: You quality of life is in so many ways determined by the quality of the questions in your heart, mind and soul. Change your questions for just 10 days. See how you feel about it.
Namaste,
Annie
SEEK-ASK-KNOCK
Seek and you shall find.
Ask and you shall receive.
Knock the door shall be opened.
This is law! The Universe is calling to your power. It calls for you to find your gift in this life. Ask the question and listen to the answer!
Seek your gift! Everyone has one. But you have to seek it, become conscious of it. Most are asking, how can I make more money, get more things, collect more stuff. How can I avoid pain?
Instead ask what power is in me? How can I become more myself? How can I achieve my potential?
Survivors!! It is not too late to become aware of the wonders that are inside you once you take the time to look. You can do it reflecting from the comfort of your sofa. You can ponder on a walk. You can discuss it with a trustworthy friend. Spend just five minutes out of your busy day on this quest for self-enlightenment and empowerment. You are not the past. You are the future.
We all have power that we might think was taken away. We all have a gift that no one told us to look for.
What is yours?
BLOGTALK With Annie O’Sullivan is back!
Thursday, September 25, at 6:30 Pacific Time, my guest Jo Edens and Co-Host Connie Lee President of FACSA and Shattering the Silence will be back on the air!
Check out the archived shows here or at http://www.BlogTalk.com many links to follow, Stay tuned.
We are excited to bring you a new line up, say hello to new friends and old.
The world awaits! Lets see how we can make it a better place for you and for others!
Namaste,
Annie
Step Out, Dream Big, Dare!
Survivors grow up. Yes that’s what we do. Survive, get out, move on.
HOW?
I get that question almost every day. How? How did I do it?
The goal here on this blog is to bring you ideas, thoughts and inspiration. If what you are doing is working, share! Share it here!
If what you are doing is not working, Why not try someone elses idea? I like to say, my road is not the only road. It is simply my road. It might be yours for a while. Maybe I will go down your road for a while. If what you are doing is not working you must ask yourself, “Why isn’t this working?” Then adjust!
Step out of your comfort zone.
Dare to try new things.
Dream things for yourself.
You deserve it.
We hold everything within ourselves to change our lives…
Profoundly simple and profoundly difficult. Is it really just an idle thought on a Sunday night? No! Not at all!
Consider this thought from Andrew Carnegie:
Any idea that is held in the mind, that is either feared, or revered, will begin at once to clothe itself in the most conveinient and appropriate form available….
Key words are feared and revered. Why are both words key to us as survivors? As children we feared and indeed revered our abuser(s) They shaped our beliefs about ourselves. They controlled our belief of ourselves and to survive we clothed ourselves in the most conveinient and appropriate form available. We also did it out of innocence.
What do you believe today?
It’s good to be back! Annie
Great article and video, Parents talking to their kids about sexual abuse!
Self Acceptance
It a simple thought isn’t it? So easy to tell someone what a terrific, kind caring person they are warts and all.
We do it all the time!
I challenge everyone to practice self acceptance. Accept yourself. Accept your life, then, accept the possibilities that will begin to appear before you.
I invite you to post one thing you like about yourself everyday! Right here!
Have a little fun every day.
Annie XOXO
Show your inner child some fun and some love every day.
Aren’t Some Things Hard to Think About?
Sometimes I think, I’m tired and I don’t want to think about this! Really I am not tired. It’s not the thinking I don’t want to do, it’s the feelings that I want to avoid. So maybe if I take a nap…
My parents: They are very hard to think about even though my father has passed away and my mother prefers to ignore me. But it isn’t today that bothers me as much as the past. Today I live my life. There is a little blank spot where I wish I had a mother to call and talk about my life but that’s all. It’s the past that is hard.
Trust:
A childhood without trust. No trust to be taken care of. No trust that I could leave a toy out and still have it when I got back. No trust that the rules would be the same today as yesterday. No trust that a temper tantrum would not be taken out on me. Yelling and screaming that I could not think through. Punishment beyond the crime. No understanding that I was a child with out answers adults wanted to hear. No trust to go to an adult and ask for advice. No trust that I was loved. I was not. I was a possession. I was owned.
Joy:
There is a profound lack of joy when I look back. Children live in the moment till they are 8 or 9 years old. The wonder they can have at all the new experiences. Life is new, exciting and fun. Learning is fun. The joy of childhood at my house was consumed by the adults through lies, screaming, punishments, fear, drugs and alcohol.
I don’t think about this often anymore. Thankfully I’ve grown passed it and so can you. I gave it some thought through my recovery from surgery because I had myself a little pit party.
Be a hero. Be your own hero! You spent all those years on a raging river of emotions; refuse to be that person. Use all that strength to be authentic and to be a little vulnerable. Not easy my friend. I know. But possible. Imagine it for yourself and proceed to go there. Find the joy and trust in your life today. You deserve it just like every other creature on earth. Say it with me “I deserve to find trust, love and joy in my life today”
Namaste, XOXO Annie
Broken Until Spoken 