Keeping busy.  Doing things.  Hiding from ourselves behind I don’t have time.  Smiling when we think we should. Having great success at work only to feel like a failure in a relationship.   Crying when no one is looking.  Crying inside when we stop moving and sometimes, because of all the denial we don’t understand why we are sad.

Sound familiar?  I was Rookie of the YEAR, the same year I fell apart, divorced and entered life altering counseling.

Emotions are a funny thing.  I can’t tell you why, I can only say it’s true.  You have to have the feelings sooner or later.  The majorities of survivors has them later, out of context and find them confusing.   Find someone to help you through this confusing time.  Make a decision to be happy, find peace and you will find it.  But first you have to decide and that my friend may be the hardest part of all.  You deserve it.  At least think about it.  If stopping to rest meast being barraged with these emotions, no wonder we can be reluctant to give up all our activity.

You can’t tell your story because you think it isn’t as bad as someone else. . Maybe you can’t tell you story because you believe it’s too ugly. We all do it.  I woman I was in group counseling with was horrified at what happened to me.  I was in fact horrified by what happened to her.  We learned a great deal from each other about ourselves.

I ask you this….    If you were mugged in the city would you minimize  what happened to you?  I don’t think so.  If you are stabbed in the heart are you any less damaged by how you were stabbed? After years and years of my own therapy I have witnessed first hand…  The pain is all the same.   The damage comes from how we were conditioned to think about it.  The healing comes from coming together and talking about it.  Together we can findo our way and heal.