Not known or seen or not meant to be known or seen by others: “a secret plan”.
Something that is kept or meant to be kept unknown or unseen by others: “a state secret”.
Adjective. hidden – occult – privy – private – clandestine
Noun. mystery – secrecy – arcanum – confidence
(Arcanum -a secret known only to the members of a small select group
Kelly my pal Head Goddess/Co-host and I went to lunch today to work out details of coming shows and to ponder life as we sometimes do.
Secret. The word secret kept coming up. We all know that this is the pivot on which pedophilia turns our lives upside down and what they thrive on. Those who groom children and then later rape them feed on secrecy like youngsters thrive on vegetables, sunshine and fresh air.
We keep the secret as children out of fear, guilt, threats, cajoling… We all have reason for keeping the secret and they are pretty much the same. THEN, we become adults. Still we feel the need to keep the secret. Now out of a misguided sense of guilt and shame. The longer we keep the secret, the deeper the shame, and then of course the longer we keep the secret. It gets harder and harder to tell. It goes on and on till we are paralyzed in our lives, stuck, pretending there is nothing in our lives to hide, and often still protecting the very people who did not protect us.
Then, WHO do we tell? I felt so dirty and I had no one to tell. Certainly not my family members. I was certain that I would be thrown out of church. I was certain my friends would turn away in disgust.
Roughly 30% (I beleive more) of the population, man and woman, are afflicted by this “secret” and don’t talk.
In 2009 the pandemic influenza H1N1 2009 caused over 18,138 deaths. It was all over the media. Journalist and politicians were all over the tragedy and how to handle this world wide epidemic.
That same year (http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets) 31,000 deaths under the age of 15 were reported due to neglect and abuse. The United States as an industrialized country, lead in this list.
Child abuse and neglect affects over 1 million children every year. Child abuse and neglect costs our nation $220 million every day. For investigations. For foster care. Medical and mental health treatment. And later for special education, juvenile and adult crime, chronic health problems, and other costs across the life span. We will pay a staggering $80 BILLION to address child abuse and neglect in 2012. Child abuse and neglect affect us all. http://www.preventchildabuse.org It is an expensive secret to keep.
PLEASE for your sake and the sake of the future: Share your story