Everyone has a journey and a purpose,the pain of life happens and knocks us off course at times. It is in those times there are lessons to be learned. There are great loses rapped in pain that ends with goodbyes we spend our lives trying to recover from. If we try to speed the process we often make wrong turns and find… our self at dead end streets. It is up to us how long we stay there.Each pain and each loss must be handle with care and walked thru, it can’t be ignored or shoved back in because in the end it will find it’s way out whether it be healthy or unhealthy. We can’t prevent loss or hurt but we can choose how it is released.There are a lot of things in this world I don’t understand. One thing I have come to understand though with each pain comes a goodbye, a mourning time of something that once was a piece of our lives, Wither it be a loss of person,thing or a event we fall victim to we must take the time to mourn. During the process we may find  we have placed our self’s in isolation and denial. If just keep everyone away I’ll be safe and I won’t have to deal with it, no one will ever know how I feel including myself. This may work for a time then anger begins to take hold. We can only hold things in for so long then we become like a pressure cooker. Somewhere in the middle of it all we begin to reach for God.We plead for mercy, If he would just make it all go away we would be a better person. We are now at the bargaining stage. Depression and hopelessness begins to sink in because at this point we’ve pushed everyone away and only the fuel of  our anger keeps us going. Reality hits and we are pretty close to rock bottom We have open the door and there stands our pain looking us in the face no turning back now, pretending is all over with. We grasp a hold of what faith we have collected on our journey and we embrace a truth that was there all along the only difference is we learn what the true gift gods grace is. Where at rock bottom and now Jesus can work with us. As we learn to walk in a new light and truth we mustn’t forget our fellow travelers who are on this journey as well. Everyone in the end is searching for the same thing pure unconditional love ,all judgments laid down, a real friend. ~~ Author-  malisia mckinney