We hold everything within ourselves to change our lives…

Profoundly simple and profoundly difficult.  Is it really just an idle thought on a Sunday night?  No! Not at all!

Consider this thought from Andrew Carnegie:

Any idea that is held in the mind, that is either feared, or revered, will begin at once to clothe itself in the most conveinient and appropriate form available….

Key words are feared and revered.  Why are both words key to us as survivors?  As children we feared and indeed revered our abuser(s)   They shaped our beliefs about ourselves. They controlled our belief of ourselves and to survive we clothed ourselves in the most conveinient and appropriate form available.  We also did it out of innocence.

What do you believe today?

It’s good to be back!  Annie

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An Inconvienent Truth, PBS Special w/Annie O’Sullivan

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Z4Qzb99H-U

Click on the link to be taken to the video.

BLOG TALK RADIO  Can You Hear Me Now? Wtih Annie O'Sullivan.  Let have a conversation and show the world you can survive and thrive.

BLOG TALK RADIO
Can You Hear Me Now? Wtih Annie O’Sullivan. Let have a conversation and show the world you can survive and thrive.

Rebecca Kimbel- PBS Host and Producer

Rebecca Kimbel- PBS Host and Producer

Survivors! On May 1!

Wednesday
9:00am until 10:00am

I am so humbled to be interviewed on my book, my story and of my story is in many ways yours. I hope you respond, call in write in to the station letting them know how very important this conversation is. IF we can talk about Child Abuse, Child Rape, we can stop it. It has to begin somewhere! Let it begin with you and with me!

http://www.ijpr.org/onlineaudio2.asp?SectionID=1012&programId=11

Live Call-In show: Jefferson Public Radio (NPR) Over 1 million listeners! What an Opportunity for SURVIVORS to be heard! Please share even if you are not going! Show the media that you do care about Child Abuse Issues by sharing and inviting you friends!

To listen on your Media device, Follow the link and on the left side Click on Listen live…. May 1, 9AM Pacific Time Geoffrey Riley Host/Producer Interview w/ Annie O’Sullivan, Author, Can you Hear Me Now?

or…. on your radio:

KSJK AM 1230
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KAGI AM 930
Grants Pass
KTBR AM 950
Roseburg
KRVM AM 1280
Eugene
KSYC AM 1490
Yreka
KMJC AM 620
Mt. Shasta
KPMO AM 1300
Mendocino
KJPR AM 1330
Redding
KNHM FM 91.5 FM
Bayside/Eureka

WHERE IS THE PROOF?

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I often time will talk with someone online that is is crisis while holding onto hope that they will get in to see a professional before doing something terribly destructive to themselves.

I was recently speaking with a woman who spent the evening before contemplating driving her vehicle off a bridge into the ocean. I ask why? Because there is too much pain! and she cries.

Her family is in denial that a relative could possibly have done what she accused him of. She has physical, deforming damage that a doctor has verified and still they call her a terrible terrible person and a liar.

The same woman has a boyfriend who has beaten her for the last three years. I ask, Why do you stay? She says, Because it is all I deserve, no one else loves me.

No one loves me.
I don’t deserve it.
I hate my life.
Everyone is mad at me.
I’m Stupid, clumsey, fat, ugly, too skinny, too________ fill in the adjective here with any negative you can come up with and a survivor has thought it.

It is the child’s thoughts that are bubbling to the surface not the adults and it is outrageously confusing. All those feelings and thoughts are causing the pain to return from the past. It isn’t based in life today, but we can’t separate it without some help.

I was reminded of the most important 4 words my counselor gave me to work these emotions out. WHERE IS THE PROOF?

Ahhhh gotcha didn’t I? The question is not where is the proof of your accusation, you know what happened to you!

The question is, Where is the proof that you are stupid? Where is the proof that you are undeserving? Where is the proof that no one loves you? is mad at you? etc…

There is no proof of any of those things… You are not alone and there is proof of that as well. ~~ Annie